Love yourself. Easier said than done right? These words are said to us constantly…and honestly, it’s completely infuriating. We are always told to love ourselves, but nobody actually tells you how to do that. That’s why I’m writing this…I want to share some of the steps that I took to get to this point.
Build A Support System
One of the biggest things for me to have is a support system. Having people that love you, and support you is instrumental. I honestly don’t know where I would be without my support system, so I’m going to tell you a little but about those people and what they mean to me.
my beautiful mother my aunt Vicky and myself
My parents have always been my biggest cheerleaders. I was raised by my mother and my aunt. As a child, I went through some pretty traumatic stuff. My parents held my hand and did everything that they could do to protect me. Later in life, when I became an addict, they were still there. I’m not saying that they at all encouraged my behavior, in fact they were 100% against it, as they should have been, but they still loved me none the less. They helped get me into a rehab program, and encouraged me through that.

My baby sister, Megan. Megan is the person who will tell you like it is. She doesn’t sugar coat things. If you screw up, she’s gonna tell you about it. And she will push you to do the right thing. That being said, when you have earned her trust, she will love you hard. She has always been like that, and I love her for it.
John and I at our wedding John and I at Crazy R’s in Goodland, KS
My husband, John. John has shown me what love is really about. He has taught me what it means to be able to submit as a wife. This is a man who honestly spoils me….and treats me like a queen. He respects me. He is my best friend.

I am blessed to have the support system that I have. I have taken steps to cut out people that cause me pain and stress. And I have surrounded myself with people that love and support me. Let me tell you, it really does make all the difference in the world.
Examine Your Surroundings
Take a look at the people in your life. Are you surrounding your self with people that help or hurt you? Are you being drug down, or lifted up. Are the people in your life constantly taking from you, or are they helping to enrich your life?
Join in the conversation. Please comment below with some of the things you have done to build your support system!